Self Image and Oppression

The whole point of modern psychology’s imperative to have a positive self image is to oppress.  If you are a peon and you think of yourself as a peon you are more likely to push back against those oppressing you (by collective bargaining perhaps).  However, if you think of yourself as this amazing person while still being a peon you are more likely to put up with whatever comes your way.  This isn’t always true obviously, peons with amazing self image may fight back against their oppressors but as a general rule it holds.

Why I Have No Hope

I have no hope because I know modern psychology can take one man and make him a trillion.

I have no hope because modern psychology pathologizes not having hope calling it “depression” whose treatment often is only effective for three years.  Hopelessness is stigmatized as being too negative or illogical when a lot of times it is an accurate assessment of what is in front of you.

I am have no hope because modern psychology has made life all about empowerment and personal happiness which has only resulted in the personal happiness most powerful being important.

I have no hope because modern psychology has helped make everyone hyper individualistic so being dependent or interdependent is stigmatized.  Of course when the people on top offer each other help it doesn’t get stigmatized but once you are on the bottom every interaction those higher up perform for you is seen as sacrificial and altruistic.

I have no hope because the things I want are so easy to procure but the things I need are out of reach.

I have no hope because religion gives me an imperative to hope without any reason to.  Somehow reading some text and performing magical thinking will smoke and mirrors negative assessment of the future away.

I have no hope because when I go to a party with my sister’s friends I get ignored while everyone else gets talked to.

I have no hope because I even get turned down for a ride to a Quaker meeting house.

I have no hope because there is no one or nothing I would quit an addiction for.

I have no hope because I recognize hope is social—something you can be in or left out of.  This definition offends people because they know it’s true and additionally they know they are hoarding hope and not offering it to anyone else because it is a scarce commodity which lessens the worse the world gets.

I have no hope because I recognize that for me and many others hope in God comes only after having a full bodied faith in him; once there are cracks in your faith the hope dribbles out.

I have no hope because the times I’ve been cut off and abandoned this year.  I realize people who cut me off know something bad about my future that I do not yet.

I have no hope but I’m not a suicide risk because I don’t have the means to actually do it.

The Tech Industry’s Psychological War on Kids

I have always understood psychology to be an enemy if not the enemy.

From an article on how digital media is messing up kids:

As a child and adolescent psychologist myself, the inevitable conclusion is both embarrassing and heartbreaking. The destructive forces of psychology deployed by the tech industry are making a greater impact on kids than the positive uses of psychology by mental health providers and child advocates. Put plainly, the science of psychology is hurting kids more than helping them.

Redpill Psychology

Psychology has no conscience, it will give you the opposite thing depending upon who is paying whom.  I do not agree with all the things Redpill believe but I do believe they subscribe to a psychology that more correctly aligns with experienced reality.

Bluepill vs Redpill psychology rubric

Business to Consumer Psychology

Disseminated to person by proxy of therapist or book

You are enough

Business to Business Psychology

Sold to companies to manipulate consumers, affects person through levers of advertising and mobile apps and video games

Buy our junk or you’re a loser.  Stay on our app or you’ll miss out on friendship.

You possess innate worth Your worth is based on how you look and what you do and how rich/high status you are
Grounded in Sociology Grounded in Anthropology
Non reply of email isn’t telling Non reply of email is telling (Eric Schmidt)
“The Secret” Law of attraction – your thinking has huge influence on the way you’re perceived and  received Your looks, status/wealth, and the image you project are what influence the way you’re perceived and received
“Healthy” means becoming an atomized individual Healthy means prospering and becoming interdependent with virtuous people (and ideally being virtuous yourself)
You are culpable for your emotions

“Bitterness” being unhealthy
Emotions are points of weakness ripe for manipulation
Psychologize actions to keep the moral high ground

I won’t date him because he has low self esteem (when it really was his low status)

Cloak the fact that you are using psychology to get what you want
Man is basically good and with ample education will choose to do the right thing Man is a moral agent but starts out bent
Ego (freudian) Id (freudian)
What is going on in your head is what is making your life go wrong Bad actors and circumstances making your life go wrong
Dianetics Gordon Livingston books
Everyone is equal and we should strive to express the outworking of that in society Baked in hierarchies, lobster hierarchy
If you are different it’s incumbent upon society to become comfortable with said difference If you are different it’s incumbent upon you to make society comfortable with said difference
Self esteem at the expense of truth Truth at the expense of self esteem
How you feel is the most important How those in power over you (boss, parent, teacher) feel is most important
More attuned to women’s lived experience More attuned to men’s lived experience
Feminism uses it Men’s rights use it
Ramped up in 1980’s Lots of it is old fashioned

The point here is with a lot of these you can’t mix and match.  Redpill and Bluepill psychology are diametrically opposed even though they are both psychology.

 

 

proxy of happiness

We rightfully jump on people who say happiness is a choice.  This is because often what they mean is watering down the definition of happiness to accommodate being able to produce it on cue.  Maybe to slow burn contentment.  But what I think they are getting at is the idea that happiness is a learned response which I highly agree with.  It’s Pavlovian.  You are given a life script that you are prompted to follow by the prevailing myths of the culture along with social pressure.  For example the idea that an SO can make you happy.  I was never happier than when I was with the girl I liked.  That relationship ended but it taught me about happiness.  Modern psychology tells us that happiness is up to us, but I think it’s something we fall into when we are doing what we believe society wants us to do.

The flip side of this is when things go wrong in relationships we suffer doubly because now we have lost our proxy of happiness and our culture is expecting us to perform a certain rhythm of happiness that involves another willing partner.  But we can’t find that partner or that feeling any more.  So we take a hard look at our life script and say maybe we should decouple happiness from being in a relationship, but it’s so ingrained in us most of us have to learn the hard way by going through a messy divorce.

Redpill and Modern Psychology

Redpill is basically the main gateway to the Alt Right.  Men disaffected by the dating scene join online communities where they vent about their woes with modern women.  The mainstream media dismisses them but I wouldn’t be so quick to.  A lot of what they say is true:

Status is the most important thing.  In fact if you google that phrase you immediately get a result from the Redpill subreddit.  The “you do you” Diet Coke ads have a women as a pitch person for a reason.  Because women are punished less for expressing them self in unique ways.  Men on the other hand know it’s all about money, power, and status (even in our physical appearance less variation is tolerated). For men it’s a double whammy because we lose the ability to have guy friends as well as girl friends when we’re low status (I’d ask my closest friend from college if this were true but he wouldn’t write back because I’m too low status).

Individual virtue is the most important thing.  It’s strange that you would have to go to what is branded a hate group to find this.  Admittedly these disaffected men are saying it is women’s virtue that is the most important thing while ignoring their own lack of it.  Liberal tropes about humans being able to be educated into good just don’t work in modern society (if they ever did).

Marriage is a raw deal for men with money.  This is because women get the money whether they stay or go.  This gives them no incentive to stay when things aren’t going well.  Women won’t marry men who make a lot less money than them because they wise up when the shoe is on the other foot.

Modern psychology offers men very little.  Most men don’t want to sit in a room drinking bad coffee talking about their feelings.  Even a lot of the issues they have can’t be helped by therapy.  If your depression is connected to you being a total loser, paying someone you can’t afford to tell you you aren’t isn’t going to work.  A lot of the thinking patterns that under gird depression such as black and white thinking are logical responses to what is happening around them.  You either get the job or you don’t, the girl calls back or she doesn’t, the project gets uptake or it doesn’t.   This can be most clearly in the bull shit advice women give men, like “believe in yourself” and the like.  This is because it works for them, because women have value in and of them selves where men’s value comes only to their connection to potential or actual wealth (haha modern psychology would disagree with me but I’m right and as long as the left denies this they are going to lose men to the Alt Right).

 

 

Truth Brackets

the wave is what society says is important
the undertow is what really is important
when you’re on top
you’re moved by the wave
when you’re on the bottom
you’re sucked by the undertow

There are a lot of things that whether they are true or not depends on your place in society.  Some things:

Being virtuous generally gets you good things if you are on top but just keeps you treading water if you are on the bottom (or worse).  This is because virtue is optional for those on top so when they exhibit it they are rewarded.  Further down virtue is expected so the lack is punished.  Still further down virtue is seen as weakness and punished.  On the bottom you generally are in derelict subcultures that revolve around vices and substance abuse.  The groups that don’t involve these things are generally higher up and not accepting of those on the bottom.

If you are on top you are treated as if you have innate worth but the further down you go the more your treatment is tied to how and whether you function in society.   This is because in both cases you are being treated based on how you are valued, it’s just on top people don’t like to believe they are being treated well just on the account of what they have to offer so they made up the “innate worth” trope.  When you are on the bottom all artifice disappears and people really shine their true colors in your face.  You only really feel the weight of importance of looks, money, and status when you do not possess them.  Because when you don’t people go into “reduced functionality mode” around you, polite but curt (at best), or all the gloves come off and they insult and demean you because you have no power to fight back.

Positivity is generally a luxury for those on top.   The self-esteem movement is for those on and near the top because they are the ones who invented it so naturally it would only apply to them.  People on and near the top are controlled more by a “soft touch” because they already have most of their lives together.  People further down often need to be controlled more tightly and for this to happen negativity enters in.  There is even a survey somewhere that said how poor kids heard at least twice as much negativity as rich ones.

 

Corporate Mindfulness

How corporates co-opted the art of mindfulness to make us bear the unbearable:

While there can be little doubt that the practice of mindfulness can lead to significant health benefits, its current prominence in corporate culture is nested within a social, cultural and political context where stress is now seen as a failure of the individual to adapt to the productivity demands of the corporation. In other words, if you’re stressed out, you’re not working hard enough on your personal focus strategy. You’re letting the team down.