A few things Christian boomers hate about me
I am on a fixed income of mental energy and fortitude. There is little Christian boomers hate more than people who actually need more rest than they believe one should get. This is because they were brought up with and internalized puritanical late-stage capitalism in a way that equated rest with sin. Also “God” is supposed to provide you with strength and when they doesn’t happen because you are mentally ill and neurodivergent that makes their brains do a backflip.
Healthy habits never become second-nature for me. I hate cleaning the bathroom and exercising as much or more than I did when I was 13. Because of my autism and ADHD adulting has never become natural for me. Of course this causes pushback from boomers.
The boomer’s legacy of individualism has made people so selfish that it is a main driver for the unhappiness of our generation, particularly for people on the bottom like me. People are taught to not lift a finger for anyone else and then they wonder why everybody is so depressed and anxious. There used to be community and reciprocity which was dying out in the boomer’s generation and is dead now. Psychologists are more than happy to fan the flames of this because they make their money by telling their clients what they want to hear.
Subconscious Sabotage of Cognitive Reframing
Psychologists are itinerant, so they are often not there for the damage their trade causes. The big issue is when they keep telling us to “cognitively reframe” things it often does more harm than good. For example, if someone is bullying you it’s not about you being a soft target, it’s about the bully’s insecurities. Maybe you have an expensive enough brain to perform that reframe. But a good portion of people will consciously perform the reframe but subconsciously will realize the reframe is a lie. So they end up split down the middle and do worse than if they hadn’t attempted the reframe at all.
The Blackpill Paradox
The paradox of the blackpill is people want you to be blackpilled but they don’t want you to show it or label yourself as such. Society wants people who have no hope because when people have hope they rise up and start fighting for their rights. Men on the bottom are taught to play cognitive tricks and be stoic and embrace their fate, no matter how bad. But some men would rather chart their own narrative and fatalism is the most powerful way of being powerless.
Thoughts on Prayers
Do you think people against gun control would advocate thoughts and prayers after a mass shooting if they knew those prayers would lead to more gun control? Of course not. They are tacitly acknowledging that prayer really doesn’t do anything, or at least nothing that they don’t want to happen.
If the church were truly praying in faith for you to get a job, they’d have no problem specifying that if it didn’t work within a year, the church would give you a 20-hour-per-week job. If they wouldn’t do this, why not? If they were truly praying in faith, the fail-safe wouldn’t phase them because they would know it would never have to be used.
Things That Will Kill Your Christian Faith
Pining for the experience of God that never comes. Christians sell the faith as God giving you comfort when everything else is burning around you but when it doesn’t come they backpedal and split out God from the experience of God and say the two things are opposite. So if you were brainwashed into it in youth, you end up with this thirst for something that you were lied to about that you’ll never get.
Having low constitution in an unsupportive environment. People with high constitution can believe in anything, regardless of those around them, because their personality is strong enough to build an image of God in their head that helps them function. People with low constitution like me cannot; we are more like easy pickings for cults. We need people in our lives who will actually help us. When we don’t have it, our faith is killed.
Lack of placebo response. The death spiral of the faith is when your belief stops netting you the placebo effect. The mind is a powerful thing, and when it is no longer on the side of your religious narrative, there is a seismic shift. Suddenly, you need God to act as advertised, and your mind won’t make excuses for him.
Being a failure. The more that’s wrong with you, the more Christians will drop out of your life and refuse to come in. When your day-to-day is so far off their map that the instrument they used to measure it breaks, you start to realize why a lot of them decided to stick to only surface-level topics when engaging you. It goes without saying that if their god were so powerful your full self shouldn’t really be too much but it is what it is.
Inability to concoct a redemptive narrative around your suffering. Everybody suffers, some more than others. But not everybody is able or willing to concoct a redemptive narrative around what they suffer. But Christians expect it because seeing God’s inaction in action makes them uncomfortable. They need a silver lining to feel comfortable.
Mystery
One of the mysteries of the Christian faith is why Christians think they can only cherry-pick the good things that result from their power as God acting. You Christians elected Trump, so you own his three-pronged attacks on individuals with disabilities, cutting the Department of Education, gutting our protections via the Justice Department and cutting DEI, and cutting Medicaid, which a lot of us with disabilities, including myself, rely on. Your god owns that, even if you like to say otherwise.
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