Talking Points

What I like to say to everyone that parrots all the talking points of the Christian and therapeutic world.  Participate in the delusions you perpetuate.  If you believe a person has innate worth treat the people lower than you like humans instead of making excuses as to why you won’t engage them.  If you have a romantic view of suffering, don’t drop out of or stay away from the lives of people who have suffered (treat them the way you’d treat people who other good things happened to like hitting the powerball).  If you believe in prayer, trust in its power.  That means if you were praying for someone to be healed you have to treat them as if they were already healed (as you’d be expected to assuming you were praying in faith).

Chances are, when you start actually thinking critically about these things, you’ll realize that these ideas you got from the faith and the therapist were nothing more than talking points all along.  They have nothing to do with the way reality actually functions.

bitterness guilting

There is a lot of bitterness-guilting that goes on in Christianity.  If you suffer and aren’t serene and forgiving and jumping for joy about it you are guilted for being bitter.  This is a sibling of the whole romanticizing of suffering thing.  But most of bitterness is an emotion.  A lot of people who are bitter (including myself) had made serious attempts to forgive all those that harmed us and often make headway.  Forgiveness is an act of will but often that doesn’t change the emotional component at all (in fact it often worsens it).  So our bitterness remains but it’s largely an emotion.  And there’s the rub, in bitterness-guilting one is implying that one is culpable for their emotions.  As if one could snap their fingers and change their emotions!