The paradox of the blackpill is people want you to be blackpilled but they don’t want you to show it or label yourself as such. Society wants people who have no hope because when people have hope they rise up and start fighting for their rights. Men on the bottom are taught to play cognitive tricks and be stoic and embrace their fate, no matter how bad. But some men would rather chart their own narrative and fatalism is the most powerful way of being powerless.
Thoughts on Mental Illness and Teen Girls
Mental illness is rising, but teen girls have taken the worst of it. My take is different than most people’s:
Mixed messages about their worth as human beings. Innate worth or no is the soul’s inner ear. You have to navigate the world with it one way or the other, you can’t navigate it by switching back and forth. Modern psychology seems to think a human’s innate worth is axiomatic when it is, in fact, aspirational. Humans having worth was a Judeo-Christian ideal rooted in God’s commandments and was always something one strived towards as a part of sanctification. It was never a given and one could opt entirely out of this.
Modern psychology took the innate worth ideal and made it a centerpiece of their philosophy not realizing that it’s something people had zero incentive to opt in to. The worth of a person with nothing to offer will not be seen unless the person doing the seeing is commanded to do so and obeys the commandment. Outside the Judeo-Christian system, the command still might be there but it’s more toothless because it comes from modern psychology whose rules are optional rather than Judeo-Christian whose rules are commanded. On a more practical level, it means there is a chasm between how people expect to be treated (as if they have innate worth) and how they are treated (as they don’t). The imperative to value people beyond what they offer becomes an unfinanced mandate.
Lack of kindness in the world. A kinder world is worth more than all the therapists in the world. A culture that doesn’t see people as moral agents suffers because it can’t even measure the problem. Modern psychology wants us to believe that humans are basically good and this sets us up for misery when expectations of people’s behavior don’t match reality. Kindness has been conflated with weakness and is discouraged in many circles. The world is more competitive so one must often play dirty to get ahead.
The other issue is the internet amplifies all the existing unkindness. Bullies used to not have access to people once they left the schoolyard but now with Instagram, they have access 24/7. It doesn’t help that a lot of men are checking out of relating to women in a healthy way and finding misogynistic communities like Redpill/Incel.
Mixed messages about being your “authentic self.” It’s like flooring the gas and the brake. There has never been a time when one was expected to conform and be their “authentic self” simultaneously. You can’t have a blank avatar, you must dress it up, but you have to do it in such a way that expresses your individuality while simultaneously appeasing your peers. And navigating ever-shifting norms handed down by an amorphous authority driven mainly by algorithms.
Young people are kept from ascertaining the blowback of being their “authentic selves.” In the past teens would make the calculation to suppress part of themselves to fit in but that doesn’t happen as much anymore. This is because individual expression is the highest good and being closeted is the worst thing a person can be. I think there is some truth to this, but one must make the calculation carefully which many people aren’t encouraged to do by society anymore.
More knowledge. You would think more knowledge would be good, but it’s not. Part of teen girls’ mental illness struggles stem from seeing how women are treated in society, for example, #metoo. Also, being connected online with older generations, they see how tough it is to make it in the world and how hard finding a good relationship is.
Frequent malignant spaces. For all the criticism one could levy against traditional institutions, their spaces (schools, churches, government, etc..), while being easily corruptible, did not have corruption baked in. One can’t say the same about the spaces teen girls frequent. Instagram, Snapchat, and TikTok are all designed to keep you addicted and feed you content to get you hooked regardless of whether it’s healthy. YouTube algorithms will provide men with misogynistic Redpill content if they start watching Jordan Peterson videos. Internet companies are not held to a higher good like traditional institutions; they are accountable to their shareholders. That’s how capitalism works (something the younger generation is turning against).
Grim collective future. Modern society is exceptionally individualistic which is an unnatural state of being in the context of most of history. This means our entire mental health treatment program is focused on the atomized individual and as long as our future improves things will look up. But humans are communal creatures and deep down know the hyper-focus on the individual divorced from the larger group is an aberration. A lot of mental illness comes from experiencing and reflecting on things collectively. The lack of kindness in the world, the lack of people to look up to, the dying planet, the refugee crisis, the war on women’s healthcare, threats from AI and adversary nations, etc.. All these things can’t be swept away with breathing exercises. Even if one is well off individually this collective miasma is still playing out in the background. Mindfulness and focusing on the present and the individual self will not help much because we were meant for community and a hopeful future, and we have neither.
A Couple Things That Feed Depression in the Modern World
The fact that you have to perform security. Psychologists and people cutting you off will slap the “insecure” label on you. That’s all well and good but what the insecure label really means is you aren’t performing security. Let’s face it, interactions in modern life are very stratified. There is income, appearance, and power asymmetry and this makes interactions (particular for those at the bottom) fraught. Those of us on the bottom, even though we are generally regarded as little more than part of the furniture, are expected to believe the delusion that, in fact, we are in an egalitarian space and use what little charisma we have to make the room appear this way. Naturally, putting on this act is taxing and depressing for those on the bottom.
The fact that lying to yourself produces negative emotion. One thing that undergirds modern psychology is the idea that there is no absolute truth, everything is just malleable and pliable and the highest good is getting the most performance out of the self the same way with better technology they can squeeze more horsepower out of a car’s engine. A large portion of modern psychology is just you playing cognitive tricks in order to get more of what you want out of life. I even read an article that said you should try to think negative thoughts about eating ice cream when you are eating it so you eat it less. There was no mention of what this deception would do to your psyche. Cognitive reframing is another thing. You are taught by therapists to interpret people’s judgements of you as a negative of them instead of you. You can do this for a while but eventually a good friend who cuts you off is going to expose that yeah, people are rejecting you because of you, not some insecurity in them. Cognitive tricks can help in the short term but in the long run deceiving yourself is just going to net you deeper depression.
On Insecurity
People tend to gaslight you calling you “insecure” when society thinks you’re a piece of shit and you internalize it. What they fail to realize is value merits a quantitative assessment, not a qualitative one. If you are of low value then yeah you are going to feel bad about yourself, that’s telling you your place in society and keeping you from being “too big for your britches”. “Security” is something society expects you to perform. You are doing so to keep others comfortable, not for yourself. In a world where you can be fired, cut off, or divorced for any or no reason there really is no security to be had.
Both Sides
It’s important to know that both genders get hate when they are honest about the way society really works.
Vulnerability
This should be required watching for any man tempted into the trap of vulnerability
Cures for Depression
I cured depression! I am diligently working on my Nobel Prize acceptance speech. I actually have 3 cures:
Shame it away. Shame is powerful and sets people straight. If you shame depression away it disappears. You are a terrible person for having depression, it’s your fault you don’t have the will power to get control of your mood.
Abuse it away. When you have a chronic condition that makes you less and less useful in society, expect you taking up more space to be met with abuse, especially if you are low in society already. Abuse works wonders for depression. It is so wonderful that when you experience it you pass it on to your kids and others around you!
Guilt it away. Despair is a sin. If you don’t have access to God the best thing someone can do is guilt you about it and tell you you are a piece of excrement for being depressed. Your depression is due to your lack of character. You are obviously not right with God.
Self Love
From: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog: And Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist’s Notebook
For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that “unless you love yourself, no one else will love you”. Women were told that they didn’t need men, and vice versa. People without any relationships were believed to be as healthy as those who had many. These ideas contradict the fundamental biology of human species: we are social mammals and could never have survived without deeply interconnected and interdependent human contact. The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.
A Negative By Default
As a man, you are a negative by default. My mom is baby sitting some kids on her house and I still live at home. She does not bother to tell them I will be there because that is a negative because men are assumed to be pedophiles unless they can furnish enough evidence to prove otherwise.
Being a negative by default permeates every aspect of a man’s life. When he contacts a woman she assumes (often correctly) that he’s trying to get into her pants and thus generally gives him a negative response unless he is someone way up high.
Of course modern psychology is trying to get people to believe they have innate worth. If you are a man (particularly a man closer to the bottom) then you are a negative by default so your low self esteem is warranted. Of course that doesn’t keep modern psychology from guilting you over this.
Redpill Psychology
Psychology has no conscience, it will give you the opposite thing depending upon who is paying whom. I do not agree with all the things Redpill believe but I do believe they subscribe to a psychology that more correctly aligns with experienced reality.
Bluepill vs Redpill psychology rubric
| Business to Consumer Psychology | Business to Business Psychology |
| Disseminated to person by proxy of therapist or book
You are enough |
Sold to companies to manipulate consumers, affects person through levers of advertising and mobile apps and video games
Buy our junk or you’re a loser. Stay on our app or you’ll miss out on friendship. |
| You possess innate worth | Your worth is based on how you look and what you do and how rich/high status you are |
| Grounded in Sociology | Grounded in Anthropology |
| Non reply of email isn’t telling | Non reply of email is telling (Eric Schmidt) |
| “The Secret” Law of attraction – your thinking has huge influence on the way you’re perceived and received | Your looks, status/wealth, and the image you project are what influence the way you’re perceived and received |
| “Healthy” means becoming an atomized individual | Healthy means prospering and becoming interdependent with virtuous people (and ideally being virtuous yourself) |
| You are culpable for your emotions “Bitterness” being unhealthy |
Emotions are points of weakness ripe for manipulation |
| Psychologize actions to keep the moral high groundI won’t date him because he has low self esteem (when it really was his low status) | Cloak the fact that you are using psychology to get what you want |
| Man is basically good and with ample education will choose to do the right thing | Man is a moral agent but starts out bent |
| Ego (freudian) | Id (freudian) |
| What is going on in your head is what is making your life go wrong | Bad actors and circumstances making your life go wrong |
| Dianetics | Gordon Livingston books |
| Everyone is equal and we should strive to express the outworking of that in society | Baked in hierarchies, lobster hierarchy |
| If you are different it’s incumbent upon society to become comfortable with said difference | If you are different it’s incumbent upon you to make society comfortable with said difference |
| Self esteem at the expense of truth | Truth at the expense of self esteem |
| How you feel is the most important | How those in power over you (boss, parent, teacher) feel is most important |
| More attuned to women’s lived experience | More attuned to men’s lived experience |
| Feminism uses it | Men’s rights use it |
| Ramped up in 1980’s | Lots of it is old fashioned |
The point here is with a lot of these you can’t mix and match. Redpill and Bluepill psychology are diametrically opposed even though they are both psychology.
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