This article fleshes out this (miscongregation of psychology and Buddhist thought) idea that you are culpable for your stress. The way you react to pain is what causes suffering. The idea that you are culpable for your feelings is pretty abhorrent but I’ve learned to expect anything from psychology.
In racing there are different kinds of flags. During many of them such as the yellow flag, drivers are not allowed to pass each other. Now imagine in this flag situation the opposite of rubber banding (where in Mario Kart where the AI racers behind are placed closer to the player playing than they should given their performance) was happening. Pretend the car in first place was allowed to go faster and each car down the line was allowed to put 150 feet between them. It would make the race more unfair obviously. I feel that’s what Trump has done to America.
The people of privilege have put distance between the rest of us and now there is more separating us as one goes further down. The people in last place (refugees and immigrants) are driven further back because everyone has put distance between them. As a man with a disability my interactions with men of privilege are noticeably different. We just don’t have much in common. Until Trump got elected I used to obsess over my closest friend from college but that has all but stopped now. Because we are utterly different people, our experiences singular.