People tend to gaslight you calling you “insecure” when society thinks you’re a piece of shit and you internalize it. What they fail to realize is value merits a quantitative assessment, not a qualitative one. If you are of low value then yeah you are going to feel bad about yourself, that’s telling you your place in society and keeping you from being “too big for your britches”. “Security” is something society expects you to perform. You are doing so to keep others comfortable, not for yourself. In a world where you can be fired, cut off, or divorced for any or no reason there really is no security to be had.